Victims and Victors

By Jason

Giving up is easy.

There was a span of time in my life where I gave up on myself; a seemingly common predicament of most 20 somethings. The pressures of adulthood just seemed to come bearing down on me and I wasn’t prepared (can you be?). Piece by piece I compromised, I yielded and I submitted to what I felt was reality. I let myself become victim to circumstance, and allowed it to dictate my existence. I refused to acknowledge my ownership and responsibility in the matter. I took comfort in “It’s ok”,” it’s not your fault” and “everything happens for a reason” .

I was dead fucking wrong.

I worked a job I hated so much it literally made me sick to think about come Sunday night. I let the body I’d worked so hard for slip into the abyss leaving behind a shell (a really soft shell…) of my former self inside and out. I became slave to various habits, in an attempt to escape reality, and I gave up or distanced myself from anyone and anything I cared about.

That was 5 years ago.

Since then things have changed and in many ways I’ve become a different man. I make no presumptions on having all the answers, but I do believe the answers speak to many of us and my experiences offer me a glimpse at their truths. Here’s a few of the lessons I’ve taken away:

Respect your body, and if you’ve let it go to hell take up the charge to go through hell to get it back

How do you command what you deserve from the world, if you cannot even claim ownership of your will and body. 

Take pride, passion and care in whatever you  do, always 

If you can’t, ask yourself why you are doing it and what that’s worth to you or rather what it’s costing you

Pick one thing and be the best you can be at it, whatever that is

I believe mastery is universal in it’s teachings, love something enough to give it everything and it will offer you most of the knowledge you’ll ever need. 

Detach yourself from anyone or anything that takes more than it offers 

There are no exceptions

Make mistakes, learn to move on

Being afraid to make a mistake robs you of the lesson it could offer, make many mistakes, learn, keep moving

Invest in the people who support you

True support is hard to find, honor these people

Sometimes the opposite of what you want now is what you need to succeed later

More often than not what is familiar is not the answer you truly need

Accept responsibility for your life

You are never a victim of anything but your own actions or inaction’s, regardless of time, circumstance or situation. You command this life of yours and it’s yours to choose to live. It can be unbearably difficult at times but you still own it, you alone are truly responsible for directing it’s course with your actions, risks and concessions. You are fully empowered to change it. 


“Rise and rise again until lambs become lions” 

― Robin Hood



About the author 


Jason is a personal trainer, nutrition coach, powerlifter, sci-fi geek, multi-time former fat kid, lover of Bay (Bailey), food, and lifting heavy things. When he's not in the gym you'll probably find him buried in a book, crushin' a sandwich, or exploring the cities restaurants.

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